Here is what goes incredibly wrong as a consequence of the lack of supporting human development especially childhood development. What is going on in the lives of children?
Brain Architecture podcast on childhood development. Only on Spotify
This is one illuminating example.
Did you know that humans are the only species on the planet that has to be taught about sex? Human sexuality is essential and yet not supported in the US education system due to parental rights under the privacy act. As a result, parents who have not studied Human Sexual Development do their best however, children need more than a guess. They need factual information to empower their decisions, to allow them to develop a healthy self-awareness of themself as a whole human being developing into an adult. Education empowers versus ignorance which may put a target on their back for predators. Sexual education supports a child's awareness and development of healthy sexual boundaries.
The primary reason for this blog and focus is that information is empowering to transformation and change. The reality in the US is not everyone is having a happy childhood or even comes close to it 75% of the time. Addictions touch more lives than not. This derails the human development in children of parents suffering from addiction.
I am posting a video and several podcasts to illuminate what happens when caregiving of children goes awry.
This first podcast is a case example:
What happened to you? Part 1. #85
"We all kind of understand that what happens to us as a child affects us as an adult. There is recent evidence that the way our childhoods affect us is so much deeper and more surprising than we thought."
What happened to you? Part II. #86
"If the terrible things that happened to you during childhood can affect your health later in life, how do you NOT live out the worst possibilities for yourself? Is that even possible? In this second episode of our series about childhood trauma, we look at protective factors and resilience."
What happened to you? Part III #87
"This is the third and final episode in our series on childhood trauma and we're going big-picture. So buckle up, because the train is going to make stops in Rantville, Can YOu Believe this Burg and OMGtown." 2019. Nora, It's Terrible, thank you for asking Podcasts on Google Play and Apple.
As a consequence of ACEs in parents' childhoods, adults are often challenged to exhibit empathy and compassion towards their own childhood. Adverse Childhood Experiences are devoid of empathy and compassion. How could anyone expect otherwise? Children exposed to ACEs are not going to grow up to exhibit empathy and compassion when it wasn't modeled or bestowed upon them. Why? Because children mostly blame themselves for not being able to please or get love from a parent. They see themselves as lacking rather than their caregiver. This is how the cycle continues to yet another generation. Hurt people grow up and hurt people and not intentionally.
This is the most illuminating talk on toxic SHAME (Should Have Already Mastered Everything), how it begins and how to neutralize shame!
Google Play and Spotify
Dr. Brene Brown on Shame on the Oprah Super Soul Sunday podcast.
Lastly, we can prevent lifelong consequences by becoming Trauma-Informed in our Society so that we assist those currently impacted and interrupt the intergenerational transmission of ACEs.
EVERYTHING BEGINS IN CHILDHOOD!
Occam's razorIt is not a question of what is wrong with you, it is a question of what happened to you?
I live in Delaware (services available Globally) which has supported becoming a Trauma-Informed State by the Governor. Governor Carney Signs the bill.
Wilmington University addressed Trauma-informed care and implemented TIC into its educational programs in the College of Social and Behavioral Sciences. The psychology programs were the first to address this issue and supported the State initiative. Click here for the Trauma-Informed Care presentation.
Every human being is worthy of an optimal childhood to prepare them for life. We don't need to make life harder to toughen people up, we need to make it more compassionate to heal. Hurt people, hurt people. Healthy people support their own self-care and self-compassion and it flows over onto other people. Remember children learn by observing not lecturing. #BeTheChange.
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