Very clear and to the point. Offered reassurance and common sense. Thank-you.
Dear Kay,
The mother of my 18 mo.old and I share
custody of our son. He is with me at my home for 3-4 days and then goes
with his mother for 3-4 days. Back and forth. I am worried that this
is not a stable situation for his development. He finds love at both
locations, from both of us, but there is no consistency for him being
shuffled back and forth. I have seen older children adapt to a joint
custody situation, (without a primary parent), but have not heard of the
effects of this on an infant or toddler. As hard as it would be for
one of us to give in, would it be better for him if we made one of our
homes his only home until he is older?
Thank-you.
Paul
Dear Paul:
If you both as his
parents are working things out in an adult manner by talking through
things and are not arguing or being otherwise inappropriate with each
other your son will be just fine. Children do adapt all the time to two
different settings and expectations.
Just love him and enjoy your time with him.
Sincerely,
M Kay Keller
