Monday, January 14, 2013

What is LOVE when the people who are suppose to love you are the same ones who hurt you?

Words can never hurt me? 

When we were young we were told that sticks and stones can break our bones but words can never harm us. This is true if we are adults with the cognitive skills to determine we need not take the words of someone else personal. Or that we can decided that the person who tosses our harmful and painful words is only talking about themselves because they are projecting their own inner turmoil out into the world and the first available bystander.


These type of cognitive choices are not emotional protections that a young child can use when a parent the person who is suppose to love them the most and is dumping all of their emotional garbage into their small psyches, into their souls.


Please click the link below and read this article. If you know of a child please take action that lets that child know they are worthy and deserving of compassion, kindness and love. 
Is Emotional abuse harmful?

Belittling is the worse form of Child Abuse!

 http://www.cnn.com/2012/07/30/health/psychological-abuse-harmful-time/index.html?goback=.gde_133126_member_198331182



Stalking the Soul: Emotional Abuse and the Erosion of Identity.
http://astore.amazon.com/lifsjouagrass-20/detail/1885586531

How to detect emotional abuse:
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/child_abuse_physical_emotional_sexual_neglect.htm

What can we do for children who are being abused?
https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/factsheets/signs.cfm

What are the facts about emotional abuse?
http://www.americanhumane.org/children/stop-child-abuse/fact-sheets/emotional-abuse.html



The abuse lingers in a child's body for years. The Center for Disease Control attributes many of midlife physical ailments and the body's break downs to earlier child maltreatment.Click here for information about the ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences Study).
http://www.cdc.gov/ace/


Further recommended reading on emotional abuse and the impact upon children.
http://astore.amazon.com/lifsjouagrass-20?node=5&page=5