Thursday, October 11, 2012

3 yr.old dealing with the Death of her father.

Dear Kay:

My niece has recently lost her husband to Cancer. They have a 3 year old daughter who adored her Daddy. She has been told that her Daddy died and is now an angel that watches over her. It has only been a week and a half and this poor little girl wants to go see her Daddy at the hospital. How much do they really understand at this age and what should she be told?

Dear TF:
They don't really understand at this age. Remember they have a hard time knowing the difference between reality and fantasy and their sense of time is drastically different than an adults. There are wonderful grief groups for children nowadays. There are also great toddler books on sensitive subjects like when a parent dies. I strongly suggest doing both of these. Also, be patient. I understand the death of a parent is something a child may struggle with their entire life.
Best Wishes!

M Kay Keller

1 comment:

  1. Even children get through the death of a loved one, one day at a time. It is important to remember they need to process at their own developmental pace and it is a great opportunity to practice patience and letting go of any expectation of how they process or how they incorporate this heartbreaking loss into their lives. Losing a parent is only second to losing a child.