Found a good article on Eharmony which sums up how people need to view themselves and take care of themselves first and foremost even in the dating scene.
I included it here because it is a "healthy" approach and combined with other communication techniques can provide the very best outcomes for those looking for a long term relationship.
http://advice.eharmony.com/about-you/relationship-tips/the-5-dos-and-donts-of-commitment?cid=2091&aid=0810114
