Teens! I love to talk with parents about teenagers because they are the most misunderstood of all the child developmental stages. It is so incredibly easy to get parents and teens back on track with each other and so very rewarding!
Teenagers will often give off signals like they are not listening to you and indeed they are absorbing every word and action they hear and see! Don't pay attention to the body language when you are talking to a teen, they are trying hard not to be read as they are vulnerable and they are needing to separate themselves emotionally!
While not a popular concept yet I have seen it over and over again. When parents and teens are experiencing difficulties usually it is due to the stage of independence and separation of the teen from the parents. This time sneaks upon parents and they expect this time of separation to come much later in their teens life.
Teens start the separation process as young as 10 or 11 years of age! Parents usually are unaware of their own grieving and bereavement, as their child is no longer a baby.
I truly want to leave parents with skills to enhance communication skills between them and their teenagers. These communication skills enhance the present bonding and love and can carry them through the adult child's life! I love bringing families closer together. Click on the ON LINE service link above to talk about your teens behavior.
M Kay Keller
Reads for teens!