Friday, July 9, 2010

Father asks questions about 11 year olds sexuality

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Questioner: Anonymous

Subject: daughter problem

Question: Dear Kay. This is awkward so please understand. My daughter is only 11, I have always thought of her as my "little girl" and puberty seemed far away to me by her appearance. The other night I saw her light on in her room, and thinking she fell asleep with the light on I walked right in and was shocked to see her on the bed with a sex toy inserted into her vagina
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I was also in total shock to see that she had pubic hair visible, and I just stood there frozen as she coverd up. My question is: Is she too young for sex toys? Is it wrong for her to place objects into the vagina at such a youg age? Is it harmful? What should I do? Should I take the toy away?

Please help.

Thanks

Answer:

Dear Anonymous, Next time your daughter's light is on you may think about knocking before entering. It is the best way to teach children about respect for privacy.

I think you are asking the wrong questions. Where did an 11 year old get a sex toy? She couldn't have bought it herself. Did she get it from your room or a friend? Most 11 years olds may know about sex but don't on the average know about adult toys.

Have you talked to your daughter about sex and masturbation? From your questions I wasn't sure this was a real question by a real parent, it sounds more like a question posted by someone who likes voyeruism and posting shocking questions for others to read. If I am wrong, then I would suggest a heart to heart with your daughter as I am sure it was embarrassing for her to have you interrupt her private session with herself.

Sincerely,

M Kay Keller