Wednesday, June 30, 2010

My children do not want to visit their dad

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Questioner: Anonymous

Subject: My children

Question: My 10 yr. old and 8 yr. old little girls do not want to have anything to do with their father now that i have left him.We have a week at a time,then the other one has them.On the Mondays that they are to go back to his home they become very emotional and cry.

I want them to have a good relationship with him but I have no idea what to do.They tell me to go to court to make it where they only live with me.I tell them I can't do that because he has as much rights to see them as I do.

Answer: Dear Anonymous, You need to listen to them and find out what it is that is troubling them so. Did they have a good relationship with dad before the break up? I suspect not if they are having this much trouble with the visitation.

You must live near each other as I have not heard of one week on and one week off before. These seems like too much change for children of this age. Hopefully they are near their friends.

It sounds like they need some grief counseling. There are many centers now where play therapist are available for counseling with children for losses through death or divorces.

I strongly suggest you get them in as soon as possible and get them the support they need for all these emotional and physical changes they now have to cope with and they will be able to with your love and support.

Take care,

M Kay Keller