Thursday, June 3, 2010

My 3 1/2 year old still throws tantrums...what do I do?



Questioner: jerrica


Subject: 3 1/2 year old temper tantrums

Question: I have 2 boys 3 1/2 and 2 1/2 years old. my oldest son started throwing tantrums around 18 months old and they have only got worse!
to the point that we don't go anywhere as a family! i have tried everything! But nothing is helping. If he see's something he wants he has to have it and if he doesn't it is a 30 minute sometimes and hour screaming fit. It seems like every normal daily to day activity is a hassle (meal time, bath time, bed) I am at my wits end what can i do to change it?


Answer: Dear Jerrica,

There isn't enough information here to really help you. You have written to me about his behavior and not how you react to him or how others react to him. How often is he told no? I need more details.

Traditionally with tantrums they will stop when they are not reinforced. No eye contact, no attention etc....when they continue like this there is usually some sort of reinforcement.

Sincerely,

Kay