Sunday, June 20, 2010

4 year old having potty problems

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Comment: I figured it out, it was the toilet paper. We recently switched and the new one was thick and had a different feel. I since switched back and the last day, she has been great! Thanks for response, I will keep that in mind!

Questioner: Jamie

Subject: Anxiety after using the bathroom

Question: Hi, my daughter is 4 years old and just recently thinks that after she pees she is dripping, even when there is nothing there. She will even poop and not pee for fear she will drip. I have taken her to the doctors and had her tested for bladder infections and yeast infections, but she is clear. She is holding her urine all day at pre-school and when she gets home I make her go. I feel bad because she throws a fit, but I have explained to her that she can get an owie if she holds it.
 I have had a couple good days with her, where I can redirect her attention when she gets off the toilet, but it's impossible to do this every time. In addition, I have had to get up very early just to make time for her fits in the morning. I admit, I am frustrated with her, but this is driving me and my husband bonkers. We did change toilet paper and then I changed it right back because I thought that was it, but she started throwing fits again and holding herself, as if to keep herself from dripping. Do you have any suggestions.


Answer: Dear Jamie,

Well this is a new one on me. I have two suggestions.

1. Let go. She will eventually have to pee. I know you are concerned about her hurting herself but think hard about it....eventually she will have to pee and probably will have an accident which I am betting she will detest much more than a dribble.

2. You could offer her those little mini pads we big girls use, the panty liners. See if that make her more comfortable.

Thinking about it I would try 2 and then 1.

Best Wishes!

M Kay Keller