Thursday, May 6, 2010

My 2 1/2 year old is not comfortable at daycare any more. What is happening?

From: Anonymous


Subject: social behaviour

Question: Hi, I have a question about my 2.5 year old. She is going to daycare since she was 1. She is completely fine at home. I have no concers about her talking, communicating and expressing herself. Though sometimes she just cries without expressing herself, but when i ask her she tells me then. She is very shy in front of strangers. It takes 2-3 hours to play with new kids and 2-3 days to communicate with new grown-ups. Her teacher at daycare says she is calm and follows instructions but will only express herself when teacher directly asks her. Her teacher is concerned that she is not expressing herself in group. Like if teacher asks what color is sky? she knows it's blue and will tell teacher if asked privately but will never tell infront of other kids and just watches other kids responses. She is potty trained at home but at daycare she holding for 6-7 hours just becuase she is shy to pee. Should I be concerned about her social behaviour? Thanks


Answer: Dear Anonymous,

She sounds sensitive and possibly is experiencing some social anxiety. I suggest a book called the Sensitive Child for you to read. Google it. Also, I highly recommend a few sessions with a therapist who specializes in Play Therapy and works with little ones her age.

Best Wishes!

Kay