Friday, March 19, 2010

Questions and Answers: Toddlers 12 mos. - 24 mos.

From: Rebecca

Subject: sleeping

Question: My 8-week-old power naps for about 30 min during the day and then is up. If I keep her in her crib sometimes she goes back to sleep after crying for a bit and sometimes not. She can sleep for 8 hours at night so I know long stretches are possible. Do I keep her in her crib for naps or just let her do a bunch of 30 min power naps all throughout the day?



Answer: Dear Rebecca,

I never advise parents to let a baby cry themselves to sleep. They are crying to get a need met weather that need is for comfort, reassurance or just because they miss skin contact with you, the need needs to be met.

I think you will find that life is easier if you let her lead you in what she needs. If she does fine with the "power" naps, then by all means stick with what works.

For any 8 week old to sleep for 8 hours straight you need to realize that was a gift and it is not usual for babies to sleep through the night. Their stomach are as big as their fist. If you are breastfeeding the breastmilk will absorb quickly into their bodies. Therefore those small stomach usually wake a baby several times during the night for nourishment.

Best Wishes!

M Kay Keller
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From: stephanie m

Subject: hello

Question: my son is 18 months old he throws him self on the floor and bangs his head on the floor several times aday.. i dnt know what to do about it..he drives me crazy he is always screaming

Answer: Dear Stephanie,

Well he sounds frustrated. There can be several reasons for this behavior.

1. He doesn't have good boundaries and is told yes so often that he doesn't deal well with being told no occasionally?

2. He had rigid boundaries because he is told NO alot of the time rather than when it is important.

3. He had something physical going on that is stressing his body out and he relieves himself by causing himself more pain to distract it.

Only you will now which one of these applies.

M Kay Keller
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From: Harriet

Subject: Age for sharing

Question: Around what age would a child be expected to "share" an object? For example, to put a pacifier in someone else's mouth, to hand a book to someone, or to shake someone's hand when the person is holding a rattle?
Answer: Dear Harriet,

This is a great question! Children do not really understand because their brain needs to develop, the concept of sharing until around age 4. Up to this point they are mostly capable of parallel play. Playing next to one another.

I have some great recommended reads about babies and toddlers on my blog.
Look for the blog link on the menu "Recommended Readings."

Enjoy!

M Kay Keller