Friday, June 25, 2010

Question and Answers: 5 yr old

From: Anonymous

Subject: does my son have ADHD or needs rules


QUESTION: Hi my son is 5yrs and seems a normal kids but he tends to talk continuously and repeats despite telling him to stop when any body pays any attention or is listening to him.He has bad temper and being the only child has got what he wanted all through 5yrs .This has made him stubborn and angry when he is denied something or is asked to share .His this attitude has landed him in trouble in preschool.He has problem making friends due to his this behaviour.I just wanted to know whether i need to consult a doctor for his this problem


ANSWER: Dear Anonymous,

Well children are like computers what we put in is what we get out of them. You gave yourself away right hee.He has bad temper and being the only child has got what he wanted all through 5yrs "

What is the doctor suppose to do when a child has had no boundaries or discipline and by discipline I mean someone teaching him that he can't have his own way all the time.

Strongly suggest finding a counselor....immediately.

Best Wishes!

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QUESTION: What do you mean by finding a counselor? What type of counselor and what would be my attitude in changing him.

Thanx
Anonymous

Answer: Dear Anonymous,

You are not going to like my answer however remember you asked me. I tell people what they need to hear not what they want to hear.

What I mean is that the way you describe your child is very negative. In addition, if he has gotten his way for the first 5 years of his life then it was his parents responsibility to set boundaries that were not set. It sounds to me like family counseling with a counselor who has experience working with children in his age range and specifically on parenting issues would be beneficial to the family and your child.

Sincerely,

M Kay Keller

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