Monday, December 21, 2009

New Year's Resolution!

So okay it's been awhile since I last blogged. I was having considerable angst at what to blog next. A friend suggested I take topics from the volunteer site where I answer questions that parents post. I had been complaining about how I answer questions for free and yet the host site makes a ton of money from the advertisers who purchase space. It has crossed my mind more than once that it is my priceless advice that I give away for free which makes the host money and I am not benefiting other than my altruistic nature. So I sat with this resentment for while and wondered how best to approach the dilemma. However, once I released the resentment my next excuse for not taking action appeared...my underlying belief that no one really seems to care about children and how they are raised and in my humble opinion not even parents/caregivers seem open to the research or advice.


Now I know this is not true it is only my thoughts which are attracting the type of people that match what I am thinking. I have posted numerous times on the outcomes of children who are raised with violence only to have parents and other professionals come at me with the usual arguments based upon their biblical and cultural rationalizations. I have sat in public places and listened (eavesdropped) on conversations where parents have complained about the amount of money they throw away on daycare...(can I believe the words "throw away" on daycare) or how it is ridiculous that daycare for one child can run $400-800 a month. I mean really what is a car payment on a brand new car these days or even a house payment compared to the money spent on care for a child. A child who is suppose to mean more to a parent than another human being in this Universe? Seriously? I guess it is a matter of perspective. Ask any parent of a child who has been abused by a childcare worker and I guess the answer would be different...at least I have to believe this is so!

Anyway, my new year's resolution is to post. I am going to take the questions posed to me on my volunteer site and start posting the common themes of questions and my replies and see what happens! I am going to be open to the idea of the possibility that their are hundreds, thousands of people who are involved in the lives of children who really do care about how their behavior affects the children they care for, who really do want to know what research says about outcomes of children who are treated in a particular manner and really do feel passionately that how we treat a child is a reflection of who we are as people.

I am also going to let go of the idea that I had to be a "perfect" parent myself in order to share what I hold so dearly passionate in my life's work. I am going to afford myself the same compassion I have shared with others that there are no perfect parents and no perfect children. We are all after all complicit in our common human experiences.

So this is my resolve for the new year, 2009! Bring it on, questions and comments are all welcome...bring all the blessings of the new year!

May I have health for my life, more wealth than I can account for and more happiness than my heart can hold! May I have these blessing so abundantly they spill out and over everyone I come in contact with, I accept!