Sunday, May 24, 2015

Avatar was a fantasy movie, or was it?

I resisted seeing Avatar when it came out in the theatres. I don't resonate to science fiction or anime movies so I really didn't think I would like to see it. Furthermore violence upsets me. So I let it go and listened as people spoke highly of the movie. It was only when I saw a documentary on how the file was made that my interest was piqued. When I saw how many computers and how James Cameron was deeply involved in the oversight of the production and development I was further curious. I felt like I was reading about a genius. Eventually I bought the movie and downloaded it to my Zune. On a plane trip across the country to Oregon I pulled out the Zune and watched the movie. I have no idea what the person next to me thought as I laughed and cried watching the movie. I was very moved by the perspective of our limited human communication being expanded. That we are only coming to understand that there is communication within and between species is due to our limited belief systems.

Research has now shown us that how we treat animals and how we teach our children to treat animals is an indication of our level of emotional compassion (empathy) or lack of it. Indeed Dr. Frank Ascione of Utah State University has a extensively published on the correlation of animal cruelty and the connection between child abuse and neglect, domestic violence, elder abuse (sociopath and narcissism behaviors). To translate this, people who abuse animals lack the ability to empathize. Many child advocates, such as, Andrew Vachss have come to understand this correlation and support the safety of animals as well as children. Bringing advocates from all domains such as domestic violence, Barry Goldstein supports the empathic awareness that we are all indeed connected, humans are only once of the many species on planet earth.

In this revealing TEDx talk by a 13 year old boy we are privileged to see through the eyes of one so young that indeed children do hold many lessons from which we adults can learn. Enjoy this TEDx Talk by Kaden Salem.

Do you treat all living things as your equal, with dignity and respect? Is your dog like a sibling to you, or just a pet? This talk explores the relationship of humans with animals. Dolphins, wolves, and ants are used as real-world examples.

Kaden is a 7th grader at Ecker Hill Middle School in Park City, Utah. He shares his ideas on the equality of animals and the impact of his "sister" on his life.
There is a very high correlation between how humans treat animals and how we treat human beings. Just because he goes to the level of insects does not make him wrong. Remember 50 years ago humans were so ignorant we did not know that dolphins and whales communicated with each other. When we discovered it humans acted as if they had discovered something new forgetting that these creatures had ALWAYS had the ability to communicate with each other. This young man is very aware and I would say forward thinking however I don't believe he is thinking in the future and is very grounded in the present. Children have a connection with life that we often train right out of them with adult superiority. Children are not inferior they are equal developing human beings with much to contribute to the world if we listen with an open mind and heart. Great job Kaden Salem!
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Friday, May 22, 2015

Discovering Self and Cultivating Self Confidence!

Nate Dallas is one of my fellow presenters at TEDxTallahassee! In his talk he describes how his father and other significant people in his life built his self confidence by giving him permission to fail! We can all learn about ourselves and others in our lives by watching this TED Talk!

Admire and Aspire!
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Wednesday, May 20, 2015

How to support versus disempower!

This is a great article for any relationship and especially children.

Communicating with your child or another adult is best approached with open ended questions, i.e.,  like how was your day today? What was the best part? Tell me more? What did you like? Dislike? How did you feel about that? 

Encourage open communication for a perspective into their daily experiences without reinforcing powerlessness. Astutely observing their response and remembering 90% of open communication is non-verbal and the person who holds the most power in any relationship is the one who listens with empathy. 

Empathy is not the same as sympathy. Empathy empowers. Children and adults won't seek out attention in negative ways when they are offered powerful in the moment attention. And multi- tasking is not a communication skill! It does not allow for listening body language in any relationship. Long term relationships require in the moment attention. Being is everything

People call me the "Heart Whisperer," because I listen with my heart and I respond by getting to the Heart of the Matter. Happiness is not outside of you. No one can manipulate you from outside of your mind and heart and heal your relationships. All the work comes from within! Happiness is your destiny! 

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Monday, May 18, 2015

What to look for in a dating relationship!

I am posting this today because I am so tired of reading articles that warn us to the signs of a bad relationship or the signs of sociopaths, narcissists etc. Don't get me wrong I believe knowledge is power and some people are so adept at being bad that we need to know these behaviors although if we really trusted our instincts we would run with out needing to READ and article. When we feel bad around someone then we need to RUN!

I personally find as I grow older that the only REGRETS I have is when I did not listen to my inner voice. Just like when I read this article and said YES, someone nailed this as any person in your life seeks to lift you up, not knock you down. Has your back and even when you are wrong they can find a way to deal gently with you. 

If #11 doesn't prove he is the smartest man on the planet nothing else will. 

Twenty-seven signs you are dating a man who loves you!


Dr. Mary Kay Keller

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Friday, May 15, 2015

The secret to loving others is putting yourself first!

When people call me about dating and relationships almost always they have not spent time alone being comfortable with who they are and who they have become. In order to attract others one must become intimate with oneself. Otherwise we move from one relationship into another without really bringing our best to the table. Moving forward without learning from our past relationships only sets us up for more of what we already had. Being at peace with ourselves is the best of life! Being alone is not a flaw and often is seen that way by those who cannot complete themselves. Two halves do not make a whole, only two broken halves. Two wholes make a whole.

The next part of loving someone else is we have nothing to give unless we first love ourselves. Do we truly know how to meet our own needs? Do we know what it takes for proper self care? Can we take time for ourselves and nurture ourselves? Do we feel secure enough about who we are to hold our own in a relationship? Do we have the strength to not give our power over to another human being? Do we know when to compromise and when comprising means giving to much of our self away? Can we stay in the knowledge of who we are and stand by another rather than underneath another?

The people who call me, call me the Heart Whisperer! Call me!

Dr. Mary Kay Keller
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